I can’t quite believe that I am almost at the end of my 2nd month of running a business!
The days have flown by and I feel pretty chuffed with how they have gone……. I have even been paid (PHEW!)
One of the hardest challenges I have faced so far is knowing my worth.
When I started, I had a clear figure in my mind and that was it. I would charge that regardless of who I was quoting for, a completely new business, or work through ex colleagues etc.
But, within a couple of days I had already broken my one rule. I was wobbling on what my time was worth and muttering to myself ‘well they only need this so…’ or ‘I don’t want to lose the work so I can just about afford to it for..’ Suddenly, I was shy, embarrassed to say how much it would cost (Not a side of myself I had seen before).
Luckily, the husband isn’t quite so, mmm…. ‘Soft’ when it comes to matters of money and he said;
‘What do you think your time is worth?’ and ‘If you think you’re are only worth X you will only ever be paid that’.
These words have had me thinking and viewing every quote in a different way.
Whenever, I have been in a position of being offered a job I have never been shy of negotiating the salary or benefits so why would I be now? Am I somehow worth less now?
The answer is no. Then I started to think about this scenario in a personal sense. If we allow people to undermine, bully and hurt us – are they therefore devaluing us?
Am I worth less than them?
‘When you accept less than you’re worth, that’s what people are going to keep offering you’
Now I can’t put a figure on what my feelings are worth to everyone I know but I know one thing for sure. I don’t want to wait until I am in my 40’s or 50’s to be comfortable in my own skin, knowing who I am and what I am worth. I want it to start today at 30 something and enjoy life with my nearest and dearest who value my ability to drink copious amounts of wine, to cook a nice dinner, to offer a shoulder to cry on or my ear to listen as they unload their concerns.
So, every day, I will be reminding myself of a quality/ skill or trait of mine to take into the day ahead.
Today I choose my ability to drink wine – Who’s with me??